Monday, August 21, 2006

Why Are Women So Catty?


It's not like I just discovered this today, but women are so freakin' mean to other women -- especially really attractive women. Today at the office, a new agent came in with an offer on one of our listings. This new agent is probably about 28, thin, brown hair, toned body, and an enormous fake rack. Anyway, she seemed nice enough; and came into the office to ask a few totally reasonable questions about some of her client's concerns about the house. My female co-workers were nice while she was in the room, but once she left...

These women were merciless. They made fun of her intelligence, her body, and how she gets her clients. Then they went into a rant about how men all want the same type of woman -- her. I thought the whole thing was ridiculous, and completely unfair to that woman. They met her for 2 minutes and they presumed to have her all figured out. Not very feminist, if you ask me.

Look, this woman is very attractive. However, women make the mistake of assuming that because men instinctively turn their heads to look at her, that she is some sort of "ideal" for all men, and that men believe that all women need to emulate her. We don't. Beauty is beauty and it comes in all sorts of designs. Men don't get worked up about more attractive men because that is not how we judge ourselves.

But hey, what do I know. I like thin women with large breasts, and hope that woman comes by the office more often.

5 comments:

J. Marquis said...

I know this sounds grossly sexist but I think your post illustrates why men will always rule the world. Women just love to tear other women apart...

Elizabeth1533 said...

Oh, the double edged sword of femininity. We band together with our sisters to bash the men and then turn around and do the exact same thing to each other. I dunno, most of the people I hang out with are guys but then again most of my female friends have husbands and kids. I've been a 'victim' of cattiness and have also been a perpetrator. It's in our nature and it's probably why we truly never WILL rule the world...

Anonymous said...

This is my take on the matter. When your whole identity is based in looking good on some man’s arm, and the approval of his gaze as well as youth, beauty and the ability to bear children defines your true worth to society – not how smart you are, not your accomplishments, not even your basic humanity – well, my dears. Guess what? When the hot chick comes along with her ability to manipulate the givers of all that’s good – men – then naturally other women feel threatened.

Spout sisterhood all you like. But the fact is that hot girl has power.
She has the power to get the job over you, she has the power to take your man, and she has the power to get more pay. You feel bad, but you HATE this woman. Even if you’re smarter, more talented, older and more experienced, when it comes to a lot of men and society at large all that is obliterated.

In the world of men, this woman has the power to get noticed. She is assured of sexual success. Because women have resided in the private sphere of relationship, hearth and home, success at being pretty and feminine and attractive to men matters a whole lot. Pretty women are competition that makes that sexual success harder to come by. That’s why average woman wants to tear her down and destroy her. Makes perfect sense to me.

And whatever you do, don’t be pretty, thin, smart and black. You’ll really catch hell then.

Anonymous said...

agree with above comment. i was what you call a geek in gradeschool and high school. i wasn't popular with boys because i was a late bloomer. i made good grades and i considered myself to be a good-natured person, some guys noticed me but i never had anyone ask me to be their girlfriend and the guys i was interested in only liked me as a friend. guys made fun of my looks in my early childhood and teenage years because I wasn't curvy and in that respect females aren't the only ones susceptible to mean and catty behavior.

it's really devestating when you learn at that age that no one seems to care about who you are as a person. i went through a long period of feeling frustrated about my appearance because i think we all (men and women) judge ourselves according to the way others respond to our appearance.

now that i'm older, guys turn their heads more but it doesn't feel satisfying because they don't see a good woman, they see someone they find physically/sexually attractive. although i can appreciate someone's attraction to me, that's not who i truly am. some women live their lives coasting off what their beauty can get for them, i wasn't one of those. i know i have something more to offer. i know a lot of younger and older guys who will tell you real quick that there's nothing like a woman who is really gracious and kind.

i'll admit to feeling uncomfortable around beautiful girls (especially when i was younger), but if a beautiful girl treats me kindly, i'm not one to bash her behind her back because her looks are intimidating. not all of us are catty. now the beautiful girl with the nasty attitude is an entirely different story.

Anonymous said...

I was always popular in school and had a mother and sisters who were mean to me because they were enviou and competitive. I have a good personality and am attractive. I have always been a hard worker and have a decent career due to hard work and yet the older I get the more catty females around me get towards me. I am now sixty years old, in good shape, still attractive and women I know that are twenty or even thirty years younger than me always try to find out my age and when they do they use it for catty comments. I have never had any work done and I look good because I take care of myself and because have a positive attitude about life. I am really sick of these catty women.